Why Is My Child So Anxious? Common Causes of Anxiety in Young People

As a parent, it can be heartbreaking to watch your child struggle with anxiety. You may find yourself asking, "Why is my child so anxious?" or "Is this normal, or should I be worried?" Anxiety in children and teens is more common than many people realise—and it’s also very treatable with the right support.

Understanding Anxiety in Children and Teens

Childhood anxiety can look different from anxiety in adults. Some children worry constantly, while others might have physical symptoms like stomachaches or trouble sleeping. Teens might become withdrawn, irritable, or perfectionistic. Anxiety can affect a young person’s ability to learn, make friends, and enjoy everyday life.

Knowing the root causes of anxiety can make it easier to respond with empathy and action.

Common Causes of Anxiety in Young People

1.High Expectations and Academic Pressure

Many young people feel intense pressure to succeed in school, sports, or other areas. This pressure—whether from themselves, teachers, or parents—can lead to performance anxiety, especially in teens.

2. Major Life Changes or Transitions

Moves, changes in family dynamics (like divorce), or transitions to new schools can trigger anxiety in both kids and teens. Expat children, in particular, often face unique challenges with frequent moves and cultural adjustments.

3. Social Challenges and Peer Pressure

Children and teens who struggle with friendships, peer-to-peer conflicts, or social situations may develop social anxiety. This type of anxiety often goes unnoticed because kids may simply appear shy or quiet.

4. Perfectionism and Fear of Failure

Some children place extremely high expectations on themselves. When they feel they can't meet those expectations, their anxiety can spike. You might notice this in kids who are very sensitive to mistakes or criticism.

5. Technology and Constant Connectivity

Today’s children and teens are growing up in a digital world that doesn’t stop. Social media, constant notifications, and online comparisons can overwhelm young people and contribute to anxiety, self-doubt, and sleep disruption.

6. Trauma or Chronic Stress

Children who have experienced trauma, neglect, or ongoing stress (even things like long-term illness in the family) are at greater risk for anxiety disorders. This includes separation anxiety, generalized anxiety, or panic attacks.

What You Can Do as a Parent

If you’re wondering how to help your child as they experience anxiety, you’re not alone—and there are many effective tools and supports available.

• Validate their feelings. Let them know it’s okay to feel anxious, and that you’re here for them.

• Build predictable routines. Structure helps kids feel safe and secure.

• Teach calming skills. Simple breathing techniques, mindfulness, and grounding exercises can make a big difference.

• Limit screen time. Create time for offline rest and real-life connections.

• Consider therapy. A child or teen therapist trained in anxiety can provide coping tools, emotional support, and help your child thrive.

  
  
  
  

When to Seek Professional Help

If your child’s anxiety is interfering with school, sleep, friendships, or daily life, it might be time to reach out to a mental health professional. Play therapy or other forms of child-directed therapy is often very effective, especially when started early.

It’s normal for all children to feel anxious from time to time—but if your child is consistently anxious, they may need extra support. Understanding the common causes of anxiety in young people is the first step to helping your child feel calmer, more confident, and in control.

If you’re concerned about your child’s experience of anxiety and want to explore therapy options, I’m here to help. Feel free to get in touch to book a consultation or ask questions.

Warm wishes,

Megan