Creating a Calm Down Kit: The Ultimate Toolbox for Kids who Struggle with Anxiety

As a Counseling Psychologist specialising in childhood anxiety, one of the most effective tools I recommend to parents is creating a "calm down kit" for their child. A calm down kit is a personalised collection of items and strategies designed to help children manage anxiety and regain a sense of calm when they feel overwhelmed. Putting together a calm down kit can be a proactive and empowering way to support your child's emotional well-being. Here's a step-by-step guide to help you create one:

1. Choose a container: Consider using a large shoebox or plastic container. As long as it is easy for your child to access or move around, the size does not matter too much.

2. Include comforting items: Ask your child to choose items to place in the box/ container that brings them comfort or a feeling of safety. Allow them to choose the items so that they can make the kit their own. Help your child consider some of the following items: You will note that these items cover a range of sensory needs. When children (and adults!) feel anxious it is often due to feeling dysregulated and not being able to cope with a range of emotions. Including a variety of the items listed above gives your child the opportunity to regulate themselves by tapping into a variety of senses.

   1. Soft blanket or teddy/ soft toy

   2. Squishy ball or any other fidget toy

   3. Favourite book

   4. A piece of clothing that brings comfort

   5. Colouring book/ paper and pencils if they enjoy drawing or colouring

   6. Noise cancelling headphones

   7. A laminated card with picture prompts about breathing or mindfulness exercises

   8. A picture or drawing that reminds them of a safe or happy place
      

Here are some example pictures of what a Calm Down Kit could look like:

Creating a calm down kit for your child is a proactive way to empower them with tools to manage anxiety and promote emotional well-being. Remember, every child is unique, so customise the kit to suit your child's individual preferences and sensory preferences. If you have any questions or need further guidance on supporting your child's experiences of anxiety, don't hesitate to reach out. Together, we can help your child feel more confident and resilient in managing their emotions.

PS. Here's a link to a previous blog post with more practical tips on supporting your child to rise above anxiety! https://www.mindandheartconsulting.com/post/practical-tools-to-teach-your-child-to-self-regulate-when-feeling-anxious

Best wishes,

Megan